To be perfectly honest with all of you beautiful people, this last week alone I encountered numerous situations where I wasn't completely comfortable with what was going on around me. I was thrown into circumstances that I knew I needed to put my guard up and respect myself by saying "no".
I feel like this is a very common predicament to be in. Either your boyfriend is attempting to get you to do something you aren't ready for, you are being pressured into taking another few shots of tequila, or your friend wants you to steal the purse you saw at the mall... I've been there. You don't want to do it but your boyfriend might break up with you, or your friend might not like you any more, either way, clearly neither of them have your best interests at heart. They may not even realize that but sometimes you have to do what is best for you.
There is honestly nothing wrong with telling them "no!" If you drink another few shots, it's YOU that is going to have to deal with the consequences, not them. Same with stealing that purse or doing drugs, it's YOUR body and it is YOUR outcome.
I don't want any of you beautiful people to be put into situations like that.
Another topic I want to touch on is doing things you normally wouldn't sober, under the influence. If you talk to people who drink a lot, most of them will say something like "I'm really not that different when I've had a few drinks", at least a lot of the people I encounter. While you are under the influence of drugs and alcohol you will easily do things you wouldn't sober. You need to be responsible for your actions but in this kind of circumstance, being forced into something you don't want to do is not your fault at all. It was your decision to drink but being taken advantage of while you are vulnerable is not your fault. It is a heartbreaking place to be, but it's something you have to accept and put behind you or you will beat yourself up.
The last topic I want to touch on (in this long rant) is Jesus. I am not a preacher, or anything along those lines, I am a sinner, one who deserved death but got life instead. I asked for forgiveness and guidance and I have complete faith that I've already received it. I know my God is bigger and better than my problems and my sins and I couldn't be happier knowing that my life is in the hands of my Father in Heaven.
I love all you guys and if you ever need to talk, my email is linked on the right hand side. xoxo